Author: Marlo B.
How do you feel about asking for help or getting help?
Some of us might feel okay while some might be scared, intimated, apprehensive, timid or may even feel it’s not necessary, because I got this! or I can do this! but,
Asking for help does not mean that you are incapable of doing something or a task. It does not mean that you cannot take care of yourself or responsibilities, but it does make it easier to accomplish just about anything when someone offers a helping hand, some advice, a different perspective or even encouragement.
Asking for help
- can help you to create a balance when things are becoming overwhelming.
- can help you to manage your stressors, it could be as simple as making an effort to do some self-care, which is essential to our overall well-being and performance.
- can help you to improve weaker areas, so don’t be afraid to ask.
- provides support, it gives clarity and an understanding even from another perspective.
- can assist in processing information, having someone to talk to.
- can provide the support we need to become more effective which can lead to growth, and
- can subsequently help us to help others.
Let’s be mindful that while we ask for help, we can also offer help to someone who might need our help.
In my therapeutic role, I’ve helped clients to understand that they can tap into their strengths, they can build relationships and use coping strategies that work for them and empower them to work towards reaching their goals.
While this sounds great, it might be easier said than done since no one wants to feel a sense of inadequacy although sometimes we might feel uncomfortable with ourselves and where we are,
but adhering to what Dubner, (2016) proposed, it should help us in overcoming this hurdle. He emphasized by saying that in order to accomplish certain tasks, we should consider deliberate practice. This term is often used in therapy. Dubner, (2016) explained that deliberate practice sometimes requires us to step outside of our comfort zone and extend ourselves so that we can improve our ability and maximize our performance. When we go beyond our normal comfort level it helps us to improve our abilities or competencies and achieve what we otherwise thought was unattainable (Dubner, 2016).
Sometimes what appear to be challenging or insurmountable tasks in the beginning can turn out to be a very rewarding and enriching experience when we ask for help. Hence, (according to Dubner, 2016) sometimes you might have to stretch yourself by stepping outside of your comfort zone in order to improve your ability and maximize your performance.
It is also important to be aware of your limitations, seek help and take time off when you recognize impairment or burnout. Engage in self-care for emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual wellbeing to maintain focus and ‘normal’ functioning.
In closing I’ll leave you with the same question, how do you feel about asking for help or getting help?
However, you might feel, don’t be afraid to ask for help!
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